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Dealing with Negative Emotions
Jul. 2nd, 2013 07:17 pmAs I've grown up I've heard a lot of people saying things like "I'm so jealous of your figure" or "I'm so jealous of your skin" or even things like "I'm so jealous of your relationship with your parents".
Okay, I think these sort of feelings / sentiments should really be nipped in the bud as soon as possible. Jealousy is not a positive emotion, being proud of someone for achieving something or feeling inspired by others is definitely positive, but we are far too eager to admit our jealous feelings as if doing so is some sort of compliment.
It's not.
Being genuinely jealous of someone means that you feel envy for something they have or can do and those sort of negative feelings will eventually result in more negativity. Those negative actions may not be pushed upon the person who brought about these jealous feelings but either way those feelings will result in spreading more negativity, one way or another.
I want to make it really clear that I'm not judging other people, mainly because I myself used to feel a lot of jealousy. I was jealous of people for all sorts of reasons, usually they were pretty superficial, or even worse, things that I could easily change about myself but didn't feel the motivation to change.
So I'm trying very hard now to have a more positive outlook towards other people. If someone looks better than me then I notice it and say "you're beautiful" and I do not envy it, because they're not me. I can't expect to look or even be like someone else, it's not possible, we're all unique. When I see someone who can speak Japanese more fluently than me, or who can draw better than me, I let them inspire me to work harder.
I'm not out to impress anyone but myself and I think that's how it should be.
I guess my closing statement is that you can't let yourself envy other people because it only ends up in you feeling bad about yourself and there's no reason for you to.
You're amazing - that's it.
Okay, I think these sort of feelings / sentiments should really be nipped in the bud as soon as possible. Jealousy is not a positive emotion, being proud of someone for achieving something or feeling inspired by others is definitely positive, but we are far too eager to admit our jealous feelings as if doing so is some sort of compliment.
It's not.
Being genuinely jealous of someone means that you feel envy for something they have or can do and those sort of negative feelings will eventually result in more negativity. Those negative actions may not be pushed upon the person who brought about these jealous feelings but either way those feelings will result in spreading more negativity, one way or another.
I want to make it really clear that I'm not judging other people, mainly because I myself used to feel a lot of jealousy. I was jealous of people for all sorts of reasons, usually they were pretty superficial, or even worse, things that I could easily change about myself but didn't feel the motivation to change.
So I'm trying very hard now to have a more positive outlook towards other people. If someone looks better than me then I notice it and say "you're beautiful" and I do not envy it, because they're not me. I can't expect to look or even be like someone else, it's not possible, we're all unique. When I see someone who can speak Japanese more fluently than me, or who can draw better than me, I let them inspire me to work harder.
I'm not out to impress anyone but myself and I think that's how it should be.
I guess my closing statement is that you can't let yourself envy other people because it only ends up in you feeling bad about yourself and there's no reason for you to.
You're amazing - that's it.
